Insecure Bride Tells Best Friend She Can't Be Her Bridesmaid Anymore Because She Had The Audacity To Lose Weight

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    Smile - r/AmItheAsshole. Posted by u/doeeyedraven 3 hours ago AITA for declining an invitation to my best friend's wedding?
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    Font - My best friend, Anne is getting married soon. She announced her engagement a year ago. When she first announced it, I was in the procedure of trying to lose weight. I was somewhere around 93 kgs when she last saw me, and now I'm 61. We don't live in the same town anymore because I moved six months before she announced her engagement. So anyways, she asked me to be her bridesmaid not too long ago, and I accepted.
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    Font - Fast forward to my trip home, everything goes to the dogs. When Anne saw me, she didn't seem too happy. Something was off as she barely even hugged me. She didn't say anything then, so I just assumed I was reading into it. Later that day when we were getting lunch at a restaurant, she noticed I only got brown rice and a salad, and she commented on how I'd changed so much. I only laughed and told her that I was on a diet until I lost some more weight. This led to a rant from her side about
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    Font - hands are so much bigger than hers. And some days, how I look like her mother because of how tall (and fat) I was. This always made me feel less feminine somehow, and kind of ugly. However, now that I'd lost weight, I didn't look fat anymore and she couldn't do any of those cutesy things (her words, not mine) and that really hurt her. I attempted to change the topic but she kept circling back to that, and then asked me if I'd lost weight deliberately for her wedding. I told her that I'd b
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    Font - her look like "the ugly best friend". She then proceeded on to tell me at one point that she was still prettier and dainter than me and no matter how thin I got, she'd always be thinner. She added that because of this "betrayal"she no longer felt comfortable having me as a bridesmaid, and I could attend as a guest instead. That strung a nerve, and I promptly left the restaurant, and texted her later that night to tell her that I was not interested in attending her wedding.
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    Font - As a result of that, I've been getting messages from her and her mom. They say I've stressed her out, and by declining the invitation, I'm trying to guilt trip her. AITA? EDIT: In case my reasoning was not clear, I declined the invitation because I was starting to feel like I was only asked to be the bridesmaid to make her look better. And then she felt threatened and demoted me to a guest. Felt like I overestimated her and our friendship.
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    Font - notforcommentin2 - 3 hr. ago She told me that I was trying to make her look like "the ugly best friend". This is called "projection". She was literally only inviting you because she saw you as "the ugly best friend". To make her look better by comparison. The hell with her. She is an awful superficial rude asshole herself. I would tell her mother just what she said, and then cut them both out of your life. She is not a friend at all. ΝΤΑ
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    Font - Designer_Extre2200 43 min. ago NTA, she was never your friend. Congratulations on the weight loss!!!
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    Rectangle - squishbee913 3 hr. ago Partassipant [2] ΝΤΑ I hate to break it to you, but that is not your best friend.
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    Font - Rosengrav. 3 hr. ago @ 3 Partassipant [1] NTA. Cut that dead weight out and go live your best life a happier person. Your "best friend" is a self- centered, shallow, manipulative piece of work who seems to have only kept you around to elevate herself. Walk away.
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    Font - Kissed_By_Fire_X. 2 hr. ago NTA & I'm sorry OP but this person was never your friend. She only ever kept you around to feel better about herself because she wanted to be "the pretty one" & now that she can't claim that anymore, she's demoted your importance in her life. Cut her off. Get better friends.
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    Rectangle - ag9910 - 3 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [7] NTA. That girl is not your friend. She wanted you as a bridesmaid to inflate her own ego. You deserve better, congrats on the weight loss!

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